My Catalyst

Messages From Mediums
Spiritualist Church, Witney – 29th May 1994

I’d been only a few times before
With each, I’d enjoyed it more
First spoken to, at the last one
My Spirit messages had begun

Now the medium was named Caycee
My mother was there too, beside me
“The name Williams can anyone take?”
But the surname link we failed to make

No one accepted, she let it go
Then came to me, with evidence to show
“I have a man who is here for you
With terrible breathing problems too”

As she stood leaning over the table
With no doubt, I was easily able
To see the exact position he was in
Just to be able to continue breathing

Caycee described well his personality
“Direct and forcefull,” is what you see
On the outside a very hard shell
But soft inside, I’d come to know well

My oldest uncle, stern and tall
As a child I didn’t know at all
Of his gentler and softer side
From his aloofness I would hide

In a male dominated world
His own life had uncurled
Brothers, and sons of three
I felt no closeness to me

Grown and on my special day
He had something new to say
“You can now have a kiss”
My wedding, I, no longer a Miss

A very successful business man
Working hard was his plan
Knicknamed Mr Unipart
He was known by many a heart

A sign of the times was his way
Smoking many cigarettes every day
Eventually developing terrible disease
His life no longer was a breeze

Leaving work, he would often spend
Days with me and guidance lend
In a home-office with my Dad
Family business, where fun was had

I got to know of his love of family
Not often shown at all physically
The old ways, men were kept apart
Told it’s a weakness showing heart

His health deteriorated rather fast
He died at home, peaceful at last
After struggling so hard for breath
He was ready to move on to death

At his funeral two poems were shared
In my life a turning point declared
From that moment on I began to seek
My Spiritual path, individual, unique

Now just over two years gone by
It was him no doubt, I couldn’t deny
His words for me would deeply instil
To set my course, opening up a skill

“Write everything down, keep it sorted
Business-like, evidence reported
Someday in your future you will need
Your written words… you will succeed”

Then my mum was spoken to
His sense of humour shining through
More evidence for us plain to see
He had visited her home clearly

“You have home improvements going on”
(A bathroom conversion, he was not wrong)
“I’ve had a laugh, as I check and look
Perhaps another builder you should book”

That’s not funny, you might say
Unless you know of our family way
My Dad employed my brothers and me
In his Builders and Decorators: G & G

With the strong evidence so overwhelming
I heeded the advice and started to bring
Notes together, writing more when I could
Being sorted I enjoyed and understood

Three years later, writing a new baby card
Words flowed so easily, it wasn’t hard
But not intended when I sat to write
For my first grandchild, a pure delight

I never gave the poem, putting it away
Now I know I began my truth that day
Over the years many more would flow
As my Spiritual calling began to grow

Wisdom kept from living family life
Ups and downs, calmness and strife
Daughter, Wife, Mother, Grandmother too
Different perspectives I’ve gone through

Always seeking the Spiritual side
On this journey I loved to ride
In 99’ a vision came to me
So I wrote notes down, clearly

Over the years many visions I wrote
As my imagination would drift, float
In 2016 I was guided to write and share
‘Insight,’ my first experience, becoming Aware

I thought that would be the only one
My visions not relevant for everyone
Three years later a reveal for me
Of who I was meeting by the sea

Given a new meaning of ‘Footprints’
I also began to see the many hints
All culminating to show me my way
My visions I was meant to display

New and old ones I began to write
With my notes to get them right
What I thought personal to me
Blogging, others inspired to see

Divine Timing has played a part
As I share what’s in my heart
Posting my poems randomly
Others find meaning so clearly

Ken Williams, my uncle by birth
I spent not much time with on Earth
Now the grand part that he played
I now easily see, the path we laid

Hidden depths of family love
Messages from his Spirit above
“Write everything down,” he wisely told
Now worth more to me than pure gold

I Bless and thank him abundantly
His presence in my life, I now see
As a catalyst bringing me to be Aware
Of my true path I came here to share

Trina Graves – 6th June 2020


About This Poem

Reflecting back on our lives it can be so interesting to see those people who might not have been a large part of our life, but who had an immense impact.

My Uncle Ken had not been in my life very much really compared to others. And I should point out that he was not a religious man, I don’t even know what his beliefs were. So it’s quite strange that it was at his funeral that my Spiritual Path definitely began! As I mention in my poem, at his funeral two sympathy poems were handed around, these were ‘Death Is Nothing At All’ by Henry Scott Holland and ‘I Am Standing On The Seashore’ by Luther F. Beecher. I was fascinated by these, and from then onwards I began to collect inspirational quotes and poems. I was particularly drawn to sympathy poems and found many of them to be uplifing.

From this simple start I began to look for more than just novels when I went to the library (pre-internet days!) I can now clearly see how the Law Of Attraction or synchronicity began to bring me the perfect books to learn more!

I’d known of the Christian Spiritualist Churches as my mother and some of her siblings had gone to services when I was younger. As mentioned, this was my second visit. I only went to services for a few years, not regularly, but this was the strongest evidence I ever received, at church, for continuation of life after death. The physical and character description were undeniable and over time the advice proved to be a very important part of my life.

Numerology

A few days ago, I worked out my uncles birth number, and was very pleasantly surprised that it is a three, which actually means ‘a catalyst!’ Amazing!!! I then worked out his number for the day he died, an eleven, which is a special number that is not reduced down to a single digit, it means illumination and enlightenment.
Born 31st August 1935 (3+1+8+1+9+3+5 = 30 3+0=3)
Died 25th January 1992 (2+5+1+1+9+9+2 = 29 2+9=11)
I’m now wondering if I was not the only one he was a catalyst for as these are such powerful numbers to have together!


31st August is also the day that Princess Diana died in 1997, also an eleven for illumination and enlightenment.(3+1+8+1+9+9+7 = 38 3+8 =11)
I truly believe Diana was murdered, her death truly shocked the world and I am sure led many people to begin to question so much of what we are told is the ‘truth.’ It certainly opened my eyes!

Namaste

part of poem 'My Catalyst' by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By

All The Twinkle

Remembering those happy days
Of many Christmasses ago
When innocence fully reigned
And time passed by so slow

For many moons, excitement built
Longing for the day to be here
But still enjoying every moment
Fond memories are crystal clear

Christmas carols, full of joy
And fun songs on the radio
Looking out at the sky
And wishing it would snow

Taking part in Nativity plays
Or singing in a choir
Building precious memories
To lift, and to inspire

A Christmas tree, now indoors
Altogether to decorate
Tinsel, lights, an Angel on top
The natural scent, so great!

Depending on your age, you might
Still reminisce when you smell
The aroma peeling a satsuma
At Christmas, only available to sell

Counting days by calender
In times, changed to opening doors
With a Christmas picture inside
And now, out chocolate pours!

Another festive treat to enjoy
Were nuts, all cracked by Dad
Waiting your turn to receive
With only one nutcracker had!

Being given some spare tinsel
To play wih, making a belt
Or a crown, to wear, to shine
As much inside as out

Little things brought such joy
And made an indelible print
On the path of your life
And now give off a glint

All the twinkle of the lights
All the twinkle of the past
All the twinkle of the simpleness
All the twinkle imbued to last

Trina Graves – 5th December 2019


About This Poem

Some of the simple joys of Christmas are timeless and some change a little with each generation, as mentioned in this poem.

For me, as a child, I simply counted the days until Christmas, but when I had my children (late 70’s to early 80’s) there were advent calenders for them to open a window each day and see a Christmas picture inside, they were so excited to do this! But, of course, with my grandchildren’s generation they now have advent calenders with a chocolate for each day. I don’t think they’d be very impressed to just look at a picture! I do hope the trend does not progress to giving children even more.

My parents tell me of their delight of receiving an orange in their Christmas stocking as a special treat for them. In my childhood, we all enjoyed having a large bowl full of fruit and nuts to choose from, and especially the Christmas treat of satsumas, which were only available in the shops at that time of year. I can’t remember when they, and the other varieties (mandarin, clementine) became available all year round, but it must have been at some point in my children’s childhood, as the smell of peeling them does not invoke memories of Christmas for them.

All The Twinkle - Inspirational Christmas poem by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By

I have written six new Christmas poems, and will be adding all of them in these last few days before Christmas 2019. I have a link page for my Christmas Poems, if you would like to read more from this year, or previous years.

Happy Christmas to you and all your loved ones
And may you all be Blessed with an abundance of Love, Light & Joy
Now, and as we step into the new energy decade of 2020
Trina ❤  

Today’s Father

The Father of today
Is free to take his role
In any direction he wants
He can set his own goal

Fathers of the past
Were shackled to society
Having to always fit in
Blinkered from other ways to be

Not allowed at the birth
No sharing of the nurturing
Only some playing allowed
But all the money to bring

Slowly change crept in
Allowing Father participation
Opening the floodgates of truth
Love: the heart’s revelation

Taking an active role
Feeding, changing and cuddling
Fully supporting a newborn Soul
Opens the heart to truly sing

Continuing to learn together
Through the years never truly apart
Helps balance the dual energies
Spiritual growth will impart

Trina Graves – 11th June 2019


About This Poem

After writing Father: The Changing Role’ I knew I wanted to write another poem about Fathers to also depict how the change has worked to bring more balance to the male energy. We all contain both male and female energy, but in the past the male energy has been way too dominant in many men. I believe becoming a father is a chance to experience a love that can break the cycle of the past and attune to a new way of being.

Much Love, Light & Blessings to all the Father’s everywhere: in physical, in Spirit and especially those who take on the nurturing role of father to those children who were not born to them.

Happy Father’s Day!

quote from poem: Today's Father by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By
My son and his newborn daughter (1997)

 

Father: The Changing Role

Each generation brings change
To all the roles of family
As each new unit forms
Different ways are clear to see

We are moulded by the experiences
Shaped in our early childhood
Our parents views of their roles
Became the truth we understood

Different families merge
In life, their ways and goals
May differ, so children change
Their perception to new roles

Also, over time societies grip
Has loosened its stranglehold
Now more people are fully aware
They don’t have to fit to the mould

In my grandfathers generation
Men had to be hard and strong
Physically and emotionally
Showing emotion deemed to be wrong

Financially supporting their family
Through all the trouble and strife
War an ever-present reality
Burying emotion was a fact of life

And now three generations later
The change and growth is clear to see
My son and nephews, many fathers
Demonstrating devotion to their family

Expressing words of love to their children
Cuddling and kissing even into adulthood
It’s beautiful to see and know
The role of father has changed for the good

The two generations in-between
My father and brothers are a part
Of this great change I perceive
As love worked to open their heart

Through the years it continues on
Working it’s way in both directions
The younger and older generations
Continue to grow in love perceptions

Trina Graves – 11th June 2019


About This Poem

With Father’s Day approaching I wanted to write something new for the day. It’s easy for me to write a poem for Mothers as I have the experience of being one, but obviously I do not know what it is like to be a Father! I can only write from the perspective of the father relationships that I know of in my family.

My son has the most beautiful relationship I know of for a father and daughter. His relationship with her mother didn’t last more than a few months into her life, but he was able to regularly have his daughter stay over. Interestingly, this was due to the lack of contact her mother had with her father who had left when she was little, so she wanted her daughter to have a father in her life.

My granddaughter is now in her twenties and lives quite far away, but she always comes to stay with her dad several times during the year. It is so wonderful to see how close they are: talking about anything and everything, and doing things together. Obviously, as she gets older and hopefully begins a family of her own she won’t have as much time for her dad, but I know the bond they share will always be there, no matter what.

quote from poem by Trina Graves - Father: The Changing Role - Spiritual Quotes To Live By

A Father’s Role

A Father’s role for his daughter
Is so important and crucial too
She constantly learns so much from him
He is a guide, her whole life through

I was Blessed with you as my Father
God knew the grander, greater plan
Bringing us together for this life
For this role, there could be no other man

The early years were a testing time
As your family developed and grew
I was also beginning to learn, many
Lessons in love and life from you

You’d grown up in another era of time
When men demonstrating love was frowned upon
Of course love was felt, but it was not shown to all
Unchallenged, these family concepts can linger on

There were times that I felt a bit awkward
I didn’t show my love and affection for you
But now I know, this was just a life challenge
Now achieved, Love has not limits, it’s true

There are some things we don’t agree upon
But as I grew up, you would listen to me
Not judging or pushing your own opinions
You’ve given me strength to be who I want to be

Life brought us closer together for many years
Working in the office of your family business G&G
The values I learnt from spending time with you
Were also there for anyone else, who chose to see

Leadership, Loyalty, Strength, Courage, Compassion
Hard-Working, you gave much more than just a wage
Sharing: Achievements, Celebrations, Possessions
Caring for all, you taught lessons that never age

Another valuable life experience you have shown
Is how to rise up after you’ve taken a fall
Life has knocked you down on the ground many times
But you always get up, carry on and succeed to do more

Your Positive attitude is a wonderful thing
You’re always friendly to everyone around
Giving help to anyone who needs it always
Your generous support, so many have found

I have discovered that life is supposed to be fun
It is the essential way to live and be free
From you I could have learned this many years ago
Sport has always been your fun-time, it’s plain to see

Coffee shops and crosswords became a thing
While together we waited for mum to mend
Missing her presence, these passed the time
Once home, mum carried on with the trend

And now that I am living just down the road
Again we get to share some more precious time
Drinking coffee and putting the world to right
Sharing and caring makes everything fine

Please know that I will always be there for you
Our Love is Eternal, so it will never end
Thank you for everything you do.. You are
My precious Father, My Support, My Friend

Trina Graves – June 2015 (Fathers Day)


About This Poem

With Father’s Day coming up at the weekend, I am sharing one of my personal family poems, but I still hope it can be enjoyed by others. It starts off mentioning a Father’s Role for his daughter because I am the only daughter, with three brothers. My Father also had no sister’s only two brothers, so a young female in his family was a new experience for him.

As you can see this was written for my father four years ago. Unfortunately, I no longer live ‘just down the road’ but I visit as often as I can. I know both my parents miss not having me living so close, but they know if they ever need me I will be there.

This week I have written two more ‘Father’ poems – Father: The Changing Role and Today’s Father. I will add them both over the weekend.

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Family Stories

(Written for my parents 61st Wedding Anniversary)

We all love to hear stories
It’s why we read and watch TV.
But not many understand that
The greatest stories are of family.
Relationships with people
Is what life is all about.
The closest ones, our family
Shape us, without a doubt.

Family is so important
It develops our core inside.
Our childhood, growing up
Imprints our lives, far and wide.
How our parents coped with life
Their attitudes to it all,
Did they show their love?
Where did their loyalties fall?

Most people don’t ever realise
The constant voice in their head,
Formed from childhood experiences
All they saw, and what was said.
So understanding our parents
What happened in their early years,
Can give us true inner wisdom
And wipe away any un-needed tears.

Remembering we all do our best
In the only way we know how,
Each generation taking on echoes
From the previous, right up to now.
The only way to find things out
Is talking while they are here,
Relationships grow in love
With empathy everything’s clear.

………………………………………………………..

For many years now, we’ve shared
When I visit, our family news
Who’s done what, why and when
Are they happy or in the blues?
After doing the circle of family
Alive and present today,
We often move to those passed
And their stories of ‘yesterday.’

Also the times of your younger days
The lessons you’ve lived and learned,
Experiences, the good and the bad
The pages of life you’ve turned.
Knowing of your life stories
Helps me in so many ways
Understanding of the past
Brings clarity to all my days.

Becoming Great-Great-Grandparents
Just a few short weeks ago,
A fifth generation begins
The clock of time’s evidence on show,
But how will this new generation
Know of your part of their world?
Unless they are told the stories
The past generation’s lives unfurled.

Family history needs to be shared
Not just for memories sake,
But for all the treasures they hold
From our past, our lives we make.
Each generation feeds the next
Not just on physical food and love,
But all of their experiences mould
And fit, to enfold like a glove.

Trina Graves – 21st March 2019


About This Poem

As I’ve mentioned before, my parents now look forward to receiving a poem from me on their special occasions, so with their anniversary approaching I began to think of what I could write about. I had no ideas, so I decided to look through some old photographs to get inspired (usually works!) However, before I delved into the photographs folder on my computer, I was drawn towards a folder labelled ‘My Family.’ I thought it was just another back up copy of all the family documents I had scanned over the years, but I was surprised to find it contained only one document, a diary note made in May 2018. Intrigued by coming across this I opened it to read, and discovered it was about how important it is to tell children and grandchildren the family stories that make up their family history. There was also a quote:

The history of any private family, however humble, could it be fully related for five or six generations, would illustrate the state and progress of society better than the most elaborate dissertation. (Robert Southey 1774 – 1843)

With such an amazing sign to give me guidance, especially as my parents had just become great-great-grandparents (fifth generation) it was obvious what my poem would be.

For my parents I made the poem into a booklet which also included a poem for each of their parents telling stories from their lives. I haven’t included them here for personal reasons and due to the extreme length.

The photograph below of three generations was taken for my parents 30th Wedding Anniversary in 1988. When I looked for a photo to use for this post I thought one from the photo-shoot we had that day was a perfect choice. At first I didn’t use this photo as it includes my ex-husband and my brothers ex-wives, so I began with a photo of my parents with their grandchildren. But, as I was almost finished I had a re-think and decided to use one that shows the three generations at that time, as this is a part of my family history!

I am stood behind my father, with one brother to the left and the other two far right. My three children are stood beside my mother and the other children belong to my older brother (far right) and his ex-wife (holding baby) who was my best friend at school, they had one more son after this date. All three brothers are now happily re-married and the 8 children between by older brother and I now have 20 children between them! The little girl on the far left recently became a grandmother, bringing in the fifth generation. 

 

quote from poem: Family Stories by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By

 

 

The Greatest Blessing

The greatest blessing of my life
Was in becoming a Mother
Truly blessed three times in all
A Divine Blessing above any other

The greatest treasures bestowed on me
Worth more than diamonds and gold
Were the lives of my precious children
Still my treasures, even as we grow old

The greatest experience I went through
Was being pregnant with each one
I especially remember the delight I felt
Growing stronger with each rising sun

The greatest bliss I ever felt
Overpowering and so full of love
As I first cuddled each newborn
I was connected to Heaven above

The greatest love I never knew
Until I experienced it myself
Unconditional love for my children
The purest and highest wealth

The greatest smile I ever saw
Gazing at each baby in my arms
The recognizing of their first smile
Is one of life’s simple charms

The greatest sound I ever heard
Brought smiles of pure delight
My babies joyous, infectious giggles
Made each day rosy and bright

The greatest words said to me
Were spoken with love from their eyes
Hearing ‘Mum’ for the very first time
A joyous moment, as time flies

The greatest happiness I had
Through the years abundantly
Were doing things with my children
With their faces so full of glee

The greatest responsibility I faced
Was one I didn’t fully understand
Many years later I discovered
The power of a Mother’s guiding hand

The greatest nurturing I gave
To my children, when they were small
Another thing I was to learn later on was
They were nurturing me through it all

The greatest hugs I received
From my little ones, filled my heart
Happiness expressed through hugs
Together again, after being apart

The greatest Christmasses all were
The ones with my little children
Excitement, traditions, decorations, gifts
Family togetherness, all having fun

The greatest gifts given to me
Throughout the years, without a doubt
Were the simple little handmade ones
Or a daisy picked when we were out

The greatest holidays were spent
Watching my children play in the sun
It didn’t matter where we were
Or whatever was or was not done

The greatest lessons I have learned
Throughout my life, over the years
Were created through being a Mother
Though many did bring me to tears

The greatest teachers in my life
Were my children as they grew
Teaching me what life is all about
Much more than school could ever do

The greatest pride for me has been
Seeing the parents that they now are
Loving, caring, always doing their best
All my grandchildren will go far

The greatest time of my life
Is each and every day
Now blessed with another generation
The joys just ‘blow me away’

The greatest memories for me
Filled with love and of joy
Are with my girls Julie and Emma
And Kevin my only boy

The greatest thankfulness I give
To my Mother, for she taught me
The greatest blessing in our life
Is Mothering, for God’s love we see

Trina Graves – 30th March 2019


About This Poem

I thought I’d finished writing my Mother’s Day poems for this year with Mother’s Day and In The Arms Of An Angel, but the following day the title of this one just came to me, and I knew it was about being a mother, so had to be written that day as Mother’s Day in the UK was the following day.

After doing my usual of prayer, asking for guidance and having an inner knowing that the poem was already completed and ‘out there,’ I made a list of the aspects I wanted to cover. As I was writing the poem a few more ideas came to mind, so I made a note of them to add too. The last verse was not on my list, but just flowed and I knew it was the perfect ending.

part of poem: The Greatest Blessing by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By
With my children. bottom pic: grandchildren (ages now 21 to 3)

 

 

Christmas Through The Family

To a child Christmas is the most magical time of the year
Full of wonder and excitement waiting for Santa and reindeer
Counting down each day, with even a tree indoors to decorate
Captivating memories through childhood years accumulate
Each intense and thrilling Christmas morning finally arrives
Bringing presents galore, heaps of fun and maybe a surprise
Days of new toys, sweets and other delicious things to eat
For Christmas to last forever, they’d wish in a heartbeat

For parents Christmas creates a mixture of things
The stress of it all contrasts the abundance of joy it brings
Worrying about what to buy and how to pay for it all
Disappears when seeing the delight on their child befall
With so much to get done, the clock ticks away so fast
But how they wish the enchantment of that day would last
Because for their own sweet child, anything they’d do
To make all their wishes and dreams come true

Young siblings at Christmas share the joys
Of the escalating excitement thinking of toys
They might receive if Santa thinks they’ve been good
Talking into the night, how they wish he would
Childhood Christmas days spent with sister or brother
Amasses laughter and sharing to re-discover
In later years when in family-get-togethers they meet
And to another generation their stories repeat

For teens and young adults Christmas is for fun
Celebrating with friends, just has to be done
It’s a balancing act fitting in family and friends
As their time and attention splits then blends
The greatest pull can come with blossoming love
From their first relationship, as if from Heaven above
First love at Christmas brings them a new dimension
As the joy of giving to love expands their comprehension

A Grandparent’s Christmas is full of timeless memories
Evergreen moments shared with their beloved families
Going way back to the times when their children were small
It’s only the enduring love and happiness they recall
Time’s moved on and now they have grandchildren to treasure
Each precious jewel brings more love and the purest pleasure
The family continues to expand as the years go by
Bliss of Grandparenthood lifts their Soul sky high

All through these stages of Christmas days
Life moves on through time, expanding always
Change is inevitable, time can not stand still
So appreciating these moments is vital to fill
Your heart and Soul with joyous memories
Of the stages of life spent around Christmas trees
Because that is what family at Christmas is for
To celebrate, the joy and love you share, above all

Trina Graves – 8th December 2016


About This Poem

I often like to make my close family’s Christmas cards, usually using recent or old family photographs. In 2016 I had gone back to writing more poems, so I thought I’d have a go at writing one for Christmas to use for the card. This poem was the result.

I didn’t plan to write anymore Christmas poems but a strange thing happened a few days later that led to more… (The Heavenly Birth)

 

Trina Graves quote from poem: Christmas Through The Family - Spiritual Quotes To Live By
My children – Christmas 1984

 

 

When You Look At Your Life, The Greatest Happinesses Are Family Happinesses

Title Quote: Joyce Brothers

As you get older you more often reflect
The course of your life and you introspect
Remembering all the ups and some downs
The beautiful sights and wonderful sounds

The focus you chose and decisions you made
Became your life and your path was laid
Life continues to expand, there’s always more
To experience the joy is what you came here for

Reminiscing those carefree days of childhood
When all you wanted was to feel good
Playing with siblings, friends or by yourself
Imagination was your greatest wealth

Childhood memories of the long ago past
Fade through time, but the ones that last
Are the happy ones spent with mum and dad
Sharing time and love, feeling cherished and glad

Picnics, walks or playing board games
The simple shared pleasures are what remains
In your memory to treasure forever more
The love you experienced developed your core

Time progresses and moves on so fast
Life brings experiences, the landscapes vast
The greatest gift, if blessed, you will know
Is being a parent, as the purest love will grow

Creating your own precious unit of family
Brings an overwhelming abundance of ecstasy
The immense love you feel will always remain
Though expressing the depth is hard to explain

Just watching your baby grow, develop and explore
Their world around them brought you even more
Happiness in all the countless, simple, delightful ways
Treasured memories gathered throughout those days

It’s peculiar, but often you will find
The simplest moment stuck in your mind
Your child running to you with arms open wide
Their pure love and elation they couldn’t hide

The years of parenthood continued on
Time seemed slow, but soon they were gone
Young adults replaced the children you raised
Vibrant, onto their own paths they blazed

With parents eyes you developed a different view
The world was changed and you understood too
Your parents love for you became crystal clear
They did their utmost to love and hold you dear

And now your children are parents also
Blessings of love forever bloom and grow
Watching your child’s parental love and joy
Blossom with each additional baby girl and boy

With the old eyes of wisdom, you can now see
So clearly the pure contentment of your family
These precious little angels sent from up above
Grandchildren bring bliss and quintessential love

Trina Graves – 4th January 2016


About This Poem 

Sometimes in my dreams I am the mother to my children and grandchildren at the same time, or I’m a child the same age as both generations with my parents as the parents of us all.. but in the crazy world of dreams it all makes perfect sense!

In a similar way the generations do seem to blend together as the years zoom by at an alarming rate. As my grandchildren are now racing toward adulthood (the oldest is 21 at the end of this year and the next 16 in a few weeks) it seems such a short time ago that they were tiny babies as I watched my children become parents but… it hardly seems any more distance in time that they were babies in my arms too! And yet, in a few months even my youngest child will be 36, which was the age that I became a grandmother. 

I’m not sure if it’s a sign of being older or a sign of Awakening that time is losing all meaning to me. The days pass by in what seems a few hours, weeks a few days, months seem to be only a couple of weeks long and years only last a few months! It’s akin to sleep where you close your eyes in one moment and open them in what feels like a minute or two later to find many hours have passed – in the blink of an eye!

Does anyone else feel this way?
I think I got a bit side-tracked here, but I suppose it is about looking back over family life! 🙂 

Trina Graves quote: With the old eyes of wisdom you can now see, so clearly the pure contentment of your family... Spiritual Quotes To Live By

 

The Family Is A Link To Our Past, And A Bridge To Our Future

Title Quote: Alex Hayley

The family is a link to our past
Building treasured memories to last
All through our whole life long
As the generations continue on

We are each born into a time
Being the next in our family line
Our parents very own offspring
To them, the future we will bring

Grandparents told us stories of old
Sometimes tales, bleak and cold
When getting by was truly tough
So we realize, we have enough

But they also loved to tell
Of times they remember, oh so well
With their siblings, mum and dad
And the simple happiness they had

Through the years our parents will
Tell us their history to instill
Their unique guidance, a way to live
Wanting all their help to give

Family togetherness through the years
Sharing all the joys and the tears
Births, deaths, parties, illness, weddings
All the diversity that human life brings

Our family history is a part
Of who we are deep in our heart
Our roots are firmly set in the ground
As we branch out in life all around

Either we agree or do not
With the guidance that we got
Both will set us on our way
Steering our life, day by day

Each family member is a link in a chain
That through our life will remain
An Affinity bracelet we all wear
Glistening gold from the love we share

Not all are blessed to cross over
The Bridge Of Parenthood, covered in clover
Gaining access to the future ahead
By their children, they will be lead

Stepping into this miraculous land
Changes forever our Affinity band
Now it contains a precious jewel
Sparking the Light in our heart to rule

The circle of life continues on
Our parents, to the ‘Grand’ now belong
Our tales are added to the stories told
To impressionable minds, setting paths to unfold

Time moves on, our jewels have grown
To live their truths, a life of their own
Guided by the way we lived each day
Their roots are strong, their links a ray

There is another bridge of pure Light
That brings a future of complete delight
Diamonds with platinum links in our chain
Grandchildren are a family’s ultimate gain

Trina Graves – 21st March 2017


About This Poem

I was drawn to adding this poem today because of two events that happened this week that bring focus to the past and the present in my family, and fit perfectly with it too!

The first was a visit to my parents of my mum’s brother, sister-in-law, and one her (3) sisters. My mum will be 80 at the end of this month and doesn’t get to see her brother or sisters very often now, it can be several years in-between visits. She was greatly looking forward to seeing them and they all thoroughly enjoyed spending a few hours together reminiscing over the past. Family history is of course something they share, but they were all surprised to be told stories of previous generations that one or the other knew, but the others did not, even after all those years.

The other event was the announcement of a baby to be born in March that starts the next generation of off-spring; my parents will become great-great-grandparents! News my mum was especially thrilled to hear, as to her (and me) there is no greater blessing to the family than another precious bundle of joy.

The Family Is A Link To Our Past & A Bridge To Our Future - poem by Trina Graves of Spiritual Quotes To Live By

The View

This poem was written for my parents 60th Wedding Anniversary earlier this year.

With family and friends around
On a March day you were bound
Together, young and in love
Blessed in church by God above

You vowed to always stay together
Through sunshine and stormy weather
Life would throw all aspects at you
But your love would pull you through

Now sixty years have gone by
Speeding time does surely fly
And here you are together still
After surmounting many a-rocky hill

Standing steadfast where you are
From that hill-top you can see far
You’ve created a spectacular view
With the love that came from you

Generations have blossomed and grown
From the love that you have sown
Each a blessing, flowering in your light
Ever present, ever bright

Scattered around you, each flower grows
All different: cosmos, forget-me-not, rose
Beautiful blooms growing strong
Seeding more as time moves on

Some little buds don’t really know you are there
Watching over them because you care
But still, you send them your light and love
From your vantage point on the hill above

God bless you for all you’ve done
Creating the view since your love begun
Now rest and enjoy the outstanding view
Eternal love and blessings, to you two

Trina Graves – 20th March 2018


About This Poem

As mentioned above, I wrote this for my parents 60th Wedding Anniversary on 22nd March 2018. As with all couples they’ve had their ups and downs throughout the years but have remained steadfast in their love to see them through.

Below is the front of the card I made for them (with the poem inside) showing their four children, nine grandchildren and twenty great-grandchildren. As I am sure with most families, as they grow and expand out into the world the early closeness with grandparents changes as lives move on with another generation. Get-togethers don’t happen as often so great-grandchildren don’t know their great-grandparents as well as they know their grandparents. But, the great-grandparents always love to hear about and see (if only pictures) all of their little blossoms.  

Mum & Dad 60th Anniversary Card

 

A Gentle Soul

Many people shape our lives
Especially during the younger years
With us through the blessed joys
And there to wipe our tears

Some are as large-as-life
Their presence takes centre stage
It’s easy to see how their character
Is written on our biography page

But some are quiet in nature
Their presence ever-serene
Life continues on around them
As though they’re hardly seen

They may not have much to say
But their words are kind and pure
Just being in their company
Will affect you at your core

They are the ink to our pen
Without them we couldn’t write
The story of our lives, no words
Would show in dark or light

Their flow brings our life to focus
Through the years their aura imparts
Blessing us with their lighted goodness
That moulds and forms our hearts

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Jennie, my maternal grandmother
Was one, a truly gentle Soul
Petit in stature, not essence
An epitome of the mother role

A mother in time of war
I can’t even imagine the fear
Daily she must have felt
In London with bombs so near

Giving up home and possessions
Evacuating, for her daughters sake
Many years would pass by before
Their own home she could re-make

Times were hard and relentless
Death and Illness she had to face
But her beloved five children
Were cocooned in her warm embrace

Years passed as they all fled her nest
Moving on, to create their own family
And onward through the generations
Her tranquillity shone out so clearly

On the passing of her husband Alfred
Frail and alone, the future bleak?
She had another lesson to teach us all
How to live on? What should you seek?

The blessing of her life was her family
And through them she developed strength
Staying with grandchildren brought her such joy
Her years continued for a much greater length

It’s now been 24 years since she moved
To our true home in the Heavens above
But what she left behind in many hearts
Is her pure and simple, unconditional love

Gentle was Jennie’s nature
Pure was Jennie’s Soul: :
Jennie taught by example
Peace: life’s precious goal

Trina Graves – 24th October 2017


About This Poem

I wrote this poem for my mum’s birthday last year, I made it into a card so that the first part of the poem was on the outside, then when she opened it there was a full length picture of her mum with the rest of the poem about her.

I have written several poems for members of my family and had no intention of sharing most of them, but reading through them I thought some could be suitable to share, this being one.

part of poem: A Gentle Soul by Trina Graves of Spiritual Quotes To Live By
Jennie with some of her children (my mum is the youngest girl)

 

Who Am I?

From the moment I was born
Many roles did I receive
Placed within my Being
What depth would I believe?

A Human-Being of planet Earth
A Girl of physicality
English by place of birth
Premature was little me

Born into the Working Class
No ‘silver spoon’ to be fed
No ‘blue blood’ in my veins
Into this Ordinary Life I was led

First Daughter to my parents
First Granddaughter on both sides
A Sister to my brother
Niece and Cousin, timing provides

Five roles of relationships
Fifteen Family Members I affected
But none will observe the same
In the Baby they inspected

A Son or Daughter is a different person
To each and every mum and dad
Gender expectations are impressed
From their own upbringing they had

A midwife delivered me that night
At home, doing her chosen work
Present for the miracle of birth
My entry an Occupational Perk

Visiting Doctors and Baby Clinics
About the town, going for walks
I became a Patient and a Citizen
A source of gossip in their talks?

Overly shy, I did turn heads
As I screamed the places down
Many must have considered me
A Toddler nightmare, with a frown

Two more brothers came along
But no sisters were for me
My brothers have a different Sister
From the perspective of each three

Starting school I became a Pupil
To be taught all the right ways
Of education at that time
And the rules a Child obeys

Through the many years of schooling
Various teachers made their mark
I, their Student was seen differently
A Character of light or of the dark?

Different levels of friendship
Came and went over the years
Playmate, Classmate, Acquaintance, Friend
Some brought joy and others tears

Out into the world of work
Stacking shelves as a teen
An Employee I became
Another role to be seen

Many jobs, many views
Of people I would instigate
Interactions and experiences
Would affect my chosen fate

Being in love changes people
The pair together and those around
The power of love is so great
Its expression and depth truly profound

Seen with eyes of love is so awesome
When two blend it’s like a drug
Loosing yourself in the emotion
Even apart, enveloped in a warm hug

To the one who stole my heart
I became their Lover, Fiancee, Wife
So intoxication the roles I played
But would not remain throughout my life

My most blessed role of all
Would bring bliss so pure and true
Becoming a Mother woke me up
Unconditional love coming through

I placed this role as my priority
And was blessed with two more
Angels added to our family unit
To love, cherish and to adore

I am a Mother to three children
But, each see a different kind
Inner truths and insecurities
Develop and influence the mind

I saw my role as a joint Parent
As two equals in the giving
Babies need nurturing and love
Adults adapting to daily living

I never knew for many years
The change in my role of a Wife
My intense love for our children
My husband felt as lack and strife

So another role I took on
A Divorcee feeling remorse

But it heralded great change
My true purpose was on course

I became a Spiritual Seeker
Limitations gone, I was free
To live and learn and grow
To be The Me I Came Here To Be

Becoming a young Grandmother
Was the icing on the cake
Unconditional love for these jewels
Brought the Poet in me awake

Many lessons I have experienced
From becoming a Mother-In-Law
Different characters and views
Letting go of any control at all

Daughter, Sister, Mother
Friend, Stranger, Wife
Spiritualist, Blogger, Inspirer
Are just a few roles of my life

With each, whoever’s looking
At me, has filters on their eyes
Their perception alters the view
Adapting to where their truth lies

But who am I to me?
Is all I should focus on
It can take many years to see
I am more than the roles I don

I am a Spiritual Being first
A Spark of God to spread the Light
I came here to experience it all
The joys and sorrows are all alright

I am United in Oneness
With All-That-Is and will ever be
I am the Alpha and Omega
We all share this in Individuality

Before my birth I knew it all
At my death, I will re-unite
All my experiences good and bad
Bring truth and clarity of sight

Each role that I have played
In this beautiful game on Earth
Has brought me to where I am
Opening the knowledge of my worth

Although these words are about me
My life and the path that I took
We all play roles in our own story
What are yours? Why not take a look?

Trina Graves – 17th August 2018


About This Poem

I was reading a post from Amira: Accepting Change, Releasing Limitations, and while reading it a quote came to my mind, the combination of the two inspired me to write this poem. I am pretty sure the quote was from an unknown source and I thought I had it written down ready to add to my quote site, but I couldn’t find it. From my memory it was: “I am a Mother to three children, each of them has a different Mother and none of them are me.”

Many of my poems are personal to my life and might be totally irrelevant to others lives, but I believe reading other peoples ‘stories’ can shed light on our own and open doors to greater understanding.

I thought this photograph of us playing roles was perfect for this poem! 

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With my children: Julie, Kevin & Emma (2016)

 

Before We Were Born

Before we were both born
We lived in a beautiful place
So different from this world we know
With no limits of time and space

We didn’t need a body
To contain our energy
We were free to explore ourselves
In any way we’d like to be

We were just the same back then
Not a child and their parent
We were Beings of Love and Light
Both powerful and magnificent

We had shared many lives before this one
It’s so much fun to change things around
You’ve been my brother, sister, parent, friend
The different ways to be, that we had found

For this life that we are in now
We talked about what we would like to do
We were ready to remember who we really are
And live our lives bringing Spiritual Love through

We knew that this would be quite difficult
In a world of limits, near and far
Our goal would be to become Awake
To the truth of who we really are

This time you chose me to be your parent
To Love, guide you and help you see
The wonderful, powerful person you are
Creating your world with Love Energy

From you my child I would learn so much
About Unconditional Love
You came into my life to teach me
As an Angel sent from up above

I only want what is best for you
But sometimes I can make a mistake
Like you, I am learning to do my best
Together we will Awake

Trina Graves 14th May 2013


About This Poem

I think I was 11 years old when I began to question the religion I knew. (Christianity) I had been told (I can’t remember who by) that babies who were not Christened couldn’t be buried in a churchyard and this just didn’t make any sense to me. How could a pure innocent baby, newly entering this world, not be accepted by God? And then I remember pondering over the question of where are we before we are born? So, when I started to write some Spiritual Poems for children this was the first one I wanted to cover.

I am a firm believer in reincarnation, it just makes perfect sense and I have heard and read so many different stories of it over the years. I especially like the stories of young children who talk about past lives. I have been known to ask my grandchildren, once they were old enough to talk well, ‘Where were you before you were born?’ And, ‘Who were you before?’ but so far have not had any interesting answers! But, thinking about this now, I haven’t asked the more recent additions to the family, so I must do that!

The hearts on the picture below represent my three children (in this life!) and their offspring.  

Before We Were Born - Inspirational Poem by Trina Graves - Spiritual Quotes To Live By
With my first two children (1980)