Father: The Changing Role

Each generation brings change
To all the roles of family
As each new unit forms
Different ways are clear to see

We are moulded by the experiences
Shaped in our early childhood
Our parents views of their roles
Became the truth we understood

Different families merge
In life, their ways and goals
May differ, so children change
Their perception to new roles

Also, over time societies grip
Has loosened its stranglehold
Now more people are fully aware
They don’t have to fit to the mould

In my grandfathers generation
Men had to be hard and strong
Physically and emotionally
Showing emotion deemed to be wrong

Financially supporting their family
Through all the trouble and strife
War an ever-present reality
Burying emotion was a fact of life

And now three generations later
The change and growth is clear to see
My son and nephews, many fathers
Demonstrating devotion to their family

Expressing words of love to their children
Cuddling and kissing even into adulthood
It’s beautiful to see and know
The role of father has changed for the good

The two generations in-between
My father and brothers are a part
Of this great change I perceive
As love worked to open their heart

Through the years it continues on
Working it’s way in both directions
The younger and older generations
Continue to grow in love perceptions

Trina Graves – 11th June 2019


About This Poem

With Father’s Day approaching I wanted to write something new for the day. It’s easy for me to write a poem for Mothers as I have the experience of being one, but obviously I do not know what it is like to be a Father! I can only write from the perspective of the father relationships that I know of in my family.

My son has the most beautiful relationship I know of for a father and daughter. His relationship with her mother didn’t last more than a few months into her life, but he was able to regularly have his daughter stay over. Interestingly, this was due to the lack of contact her mother had with her father who had left when she was little, so she wanted her daughter to have a father in her life.

My granddaughter is now in her twenties and lives quite far away, but she always comes to stay with her dad several times during the year. It is so wonderful to see how close they are: talking about anything and everything, and doing things together. Obviously, as she gets older and hopefully begins a family of her own she won’t have as much time for her dad, but I know the bond they share will always be there, no matter what.

quote from poem by Trina Graves - Father: The Changing Role - Spiritual Quotes To Live By

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6 thoughts on “Father: The Changing Role

  1. What a beautiful story about your son’s close relationship with his daughter! A beautiful poem that reflects the positive changes that humanity is making as they free themselves from limiting cultural beliefs and moulds, and fathers become free to express their emotions and their love and to actively participate in raising their children. All these positive changes happened in a relatively short period of time, as you observed in only 3 generations! ❤

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  2. Fathers are a symbol of Love, Protection and Care.
    Father’s role is different from mother’s though, but usually daughters are more attached to them. I know it as I am father of two daughters.
    A real story indeed.
    Regards
    Shiva
    🌷

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